I just found out tonight that my ex has been cutting for 3 and a half months now, and it really scares me, I don't know what to tell him or how to deal with it, before he accualy told me he was cutting he said how depressed he was and how everyone hated him and I just blew up at him saying that I didn't hate him and every one has fucking screwed up lives and he was no exception even I had a screwed up life even though I may seem all together on the outside. Then he started saying how he cuts every other week and that he didn't trust anybody anymore, me, our other friends, his family, no one and I don't know what to do about it and as I said before it's really scaring me.
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Posts: 80 (08/01/04 04:45:20) Mod |
heya
it can be a hell of a lot to deal with when someone tells you they self harm, particular if it comes seemingly out of nowhere. i know from watching what my best friend went through with me is that the first reaction is the obvious one of not wanting the person you care about to be hurting themselves. try not to make demands on them as far as getting them to stop because if simply doesn't work. it's hard, but the best thing to do is just be there to support them and listen to them when they need someone to talk to. my best friend lived with me for a year and saw me at my very worst, and he's since told me that at times it was all he could do to stop himself from grabbing me by the shoulders and shaking me until i promised to stop, so i know it must be incredibly frustrating to watch someone do this to themselves. it probably also feels like you're walking on eggshells sometimes, not wanting to say the wrong thing and trigger anything. having seen the look on my best friend's face at times, i think there are times when it's harder for those close to us and watching us hurt ourselves than it is for us. anyway, my advice is that it's natural to feel scared, and it's natural to want to help him and get him to stop, but it's gonna take a lot of patience. if he's willing to talk to you about it (which, judging by the fact that he told you, he probably is), encourage him to do that, and just be there to listen and offer support. and remember that you can talk to us here whenever you need to, because it isn't an easy thing to take on. good luck demi |
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