My friend has been cutting her self for 7 years..she started in middle school stopped and now started up again...she just recently started showing me the actual cuts...it's feels like to me like a cry for help...i've done it before i went to counseling and now i don't but she wont tell me why she is doing it..i see the cuts and their bad...i try to talk to her and she tells me i'm spazzing and turns mean...i don't know what to do...i'm scared for my friend...i love her like family..some one please help me find a way to understand and help her...
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Posts: 335 (06/23/04 07:41:52) Valued Member |
everyone cuts for thier own reasons. unfortunatly, some of those reasons can only be understood by the person who cuts. just be there for your freind, let her know you care. if counselling worked for you, mabe suggest it to her? but don't push it, it'll only upset her more.
if the cuts are really bad, then you might consider talking to a cousellor about her and see what can be done to help her.. that's only if you think she's in danger.. otherwise there really isn't anything you can do short of pushing her away.. just tryy to be patcient, and hopefully she'll open up to you, and so you can see from her point of view.. i wish I could help you more. Have been howling like women, or damaged instruments. Already he can feel daylight, his white disease, Creeping up with her hatful of trivial repetitions. |
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Posts: 2083 (06/23/04 09:50:44) Admin |
Hi sweetheart, first off thanks for coming by, so many people see SIers and consider us freaks, it takes a true friend to want to help
 You say that your friend "wont" tell you why she has started cutting again. Sometimes it is hard to know ourselves babe let alone explain it to others. I can't speak for your friend, we are all different but please don't think she is holding out on you, she may well just not know the answer to your question. When you say that you try to talk to her about it does that mean that you initiate the conversation? It must be so hard for you to know that your friend is hurting herself in this way but sometimes she may just not be able to talk about it and the best means of defense is attack. My advice would be to wait until she brings it up, at least then you know she is open to conversation. Try not to judge her by your experiences, hers could be totally different to yours As her friend you can be a great help to her babe but one of the main reasons for cutting is an inability to express ourselves any other way. Try to be patient with her, be there for her if she needs you, listen to her. Is there any way that you can get her to talk to someone? A school or church counsellor? Sometimes it is easier to talk to someone that we dont know that well. It sounds like her reason for cutting is pretty deep rooted babe and something has triggered her recently. She does need help and I hope that she can find it. You could always give her the link to this site, we would be happy to listen and help in any way we can. Thank you for being the good friend that you are to her, she will really appreciate your support even if she cannot express that gratitude at the moment. Good luck and feel free to come back if we can help in the future.  ----------------------------------------------------------------------
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