So.. hi 
Let me tell you something about myself. I've been wandering around a lot of forums/z and thanks to Anniebabe and Cinderss here I am!
I'm Inger, just turned 18 *weeee* and I live near Amsterdam, study at an University in Amsterdam (so please do tell if some of you are coming this way, we could smoke some pot together
) and I study Psychology (which I really really like!!) .
I became familiar with the concept of Self Injury three years ago, when I surfed around the Internet, and found my first forum, which was related to a Gothic/metal/fantasy band (Within Temptation - their female lead singer just adoooores Tori, so I became their fan
) .
Just after I was getting in that world the whole Gothic concept became a huge rage in Holland. A whole 'new generation' Gothic fans (13/14 year old girls) stood up. Suddenly it was way cool to be a Gothic (btw: I'm not Gothic, I really like those people (they just think more), but I hate the color (because it isn't a color) black
I'm the type of girl with all the seventies clothes and a lt of flowers )
Anyway, the whole forum was suddenly a place to become depressed and that kind of stuff, cause apparently you must be if you're a new generation Gothic kiddies. Self Injury became so popular (people were exchanging methods) and it was like the flu, suddenly everybody was 'having' it, and it was all about attention, people didn't listen to each other anymore, just screaming louder and louder to get attention. (still makes me sad
)
I left there with some people to start something new, we split up again, and again, and now I'm a little bit homeless .
I made some friends along the way, and I'm so worried about a few of them (who 'do' self injury).
I'm a very curious person, I want to know why, I want to know what it does to you, the addiction, how it feels to turn mental pain into physical pain, I want to know what it feels like and, most of all, how I (we) can stop it.
So, I'm searching and worrying about this rage, where teens are so impressionable, and I understand that every teen has it problems, and is searching for a way to make peace with all those feelings.. but I think (and I think you'd all agree) that this is not the best way to deal with those problems..
My dear girlfriend said something which I think is so beautiful: "Mental pain can take so much time to heal, and if you put mental pain into physical pain, it takes much less time to heal, cause if the wounds heal I still have a mark to see that there ws pain, but I don't have to feel it anymore."
This was also the reason why she wouldn't mind if you saw her scars, but she did anything to hide them when there was still a blister or a 'fresh' wound, cause then she was still 'in' the pain, and she don't want to talk about it.
In my point of view there are two generations who 'do' self injury. The 'old' generation invented the concept and the new generation is a copy cat. I really don't like how the new generation got their methods (Internet, magazines), and how 'easy' and accepted self injury is now a days.
For the old generation it's good that the atmosphere is more open, but the new one.. I just don't know how to deal with those kids..
I'm here to see how you are dealing with this issue, I hope to learn more and more and maybe one day I know what to do and say.
I also wanted to say again that you are doing so well here, because I've seen a lot of forums, and the three of you are really doing the best I've ever seen!! You're just so lovely
*woops* It became a very long text to read!! Sorry!!
Love, Inger
So I'm Walking Down The Road... 
Let me tell you something about myself. I've been wandering around a lot of forums/z and thanks to Anniebabe and Cinderss here I am!
I'm Inger, just turned 18 *weeee* and I live near Amsterdam, study at an University in Amsterdam (so please do tell if some of you are coming this way, we could smoke some pot together
) and I study Psychology (which I really really like!!) .I became familiar with the concept of Self Injury three years ago, when I surfed around the Internet, and found my first forum, which was related to a Gothic/metal/fantasy band (Within Temptation - their female lead singer just adoooores Tori, so I became their fan
) . Just after I was getting in that world the whole Gothic concept became a huge rage in Holland. A whole 'new generation' Gothic fans (13/14 year old girls) stood up. Suddenly it was way cool to be a Gothic (btw: I'm not Gothic, I really like those people (they just think more), but I hate the color (because it isn't a color) black
I'm the type of girl with all the seventies clothes and a lt of flowers ) Anyway, the whole forum was suddenly a place to become depressed and that kind of stuff, cause apparently you must be if you're a new generation Gothic kiddies. Self Injury became so popular (people were exchanging methods) and it was like the flu, suddenly everybody was 'having' it, and it was all about attention, people didn't listen to each other anymore, just screaming louder and louder to get attention. (still makes me sad
)I left there with some people to start something new, we split up again, and again, and now I'm a little bit homeless
. I made some friends along the way, and I'm so worried about a few of them (who 'do' self injury).
I'm a very curious person, I want to know why, I want to know what it does to you, the addiction, how it feels to turn mental pain into physical pain, I want to know what it feels like and, most of all, how I (we) can stop it.
So, I'm searching and worrying about this rage, where teens are so impressionable, and I understand that every teen has it problems, and is searching for a way to make peace with all those feelings.. but I think (and I think you'd all agree) that this is not the best way to deal with those problems..
My dear girlfriend said something which I think is so beautiful: "Mental pain can take so much time to heal, and if you put mental pain into physical pain, it takes much less time to heal, cause if the wounds heal I still have a mark to see that there ws pain, but I don't have to feel it anymore."
This was also the reason why she wouldn't mind if you saw her scars, but she did anything to hide them when there was still a blister or a 'fresh' wound, cause then she was still 'in' the pain, and she don't want to talk about it.
In my point of view there are two generations who 'do' self injury. The 'old' generation invented the concept and the new generation is a copy cat. I really don't like how the new generation got their methods (Internet, magazines), and how 'easy' and accepted self injury is now a days.
For the old generation it's good that the atmosphere is more open, but the new one.. I just don't know how to deal with those kids..
I'm here to see how you are dealing with this issue, I hope to learn more and more and maybe one day I know what to do and say.
I also wanted to say again that you are doing so well here, because I've seen a lot of forums, and the three of you are really doing the best I've ever seen!! You're just so lovely
*woops* It became a very long text to read!! Sorry!!
Love, Inger
So I'm Walking Down The Road... 
